Monday, August 10, 2009

BEN : To tell or not to tell. . . .

To tell or not to tell. Perhaps that is another question that Hamlet might have found himself reasoning had things not ended up as they did.


I come from the part of the pew where ‘telling’ is a large part of what we are supposed to do. It is our job to learn the pitch and become corporate spokespersons for the Kingdom. We are the chosen sales reps, and we are the polished business development folks responsible for fulfilling [sic] the Great Commission. We go forth armed with our elevator speeches to tell folks the Truth. Those who are the best at this, receive the highest honors.


There is stark contrast between the posture of the One Who Came and those who come from my part of the pew when it comes to seeking and saving the lost. I am amazed at how many times the Messiah acts in miraculous ways and then asks the subject of that particular miracle to keep silent and tell no one. This is so confusing that theologians have decided they don’t know either, so they relegate their explanation to an elusive phrase – “Messianic Secret” – whatever that means.


It is an odd thing to carry within you a guilt, deeply seeded from a childhood of Sunday School and Vacation Bible School where one is told time and time again that those who do not tell out the Good News are those who have not really been changed by The Red Letters. That is a lot to process, especially when you believe there is eternal significance attached to the act.


The redemption, if you want to call it that, is that the majority of the people who occupy this part of the pew hear the message from the person in the pulpit and disregard it as a pollyianic cry for new recruits from God’s publication relations department. This part of the pew publishes research [sic] that uncovers the fact that most people who claim to be “evangelical Christians” will never tell [sic] a non-believer [again, sic] about their faith.


I am wrestling very hard these days with the notion that the part of the pew that seems to tout this position also seems to be the part of the pew that is shrinking. In fact, people are scooting across The Great Divide by the millions. And in the middle of a disastrous evacuation, the company messengers just keep getting louder and more obnoxious.


Silence and prayer preserved the Way of Christ after it was in danger of the normalization of Christianity in Rome and beyond. It was those who fled to outlying areas and agreed to preserve the words and practice of the One Who Came through community, study, and practice who are responsible for my hearing of the Red Letters. Were it not for these brave men and women, the Gospel would have been entirely lost. And yet nowhere in The Rule they left for us are the words “Go and tell.”


Perhaps the way to tell the world and fulfill The Great Commission, if such an editorial comment from one telling of the Gospel story is appropriate in the first place, is to read and struggle through the call to love, forgive, and sacrifice in the midst of our tendencies to hate, begrudge, and protect what is ours for the taking.


A wise friend once said, “The Good News is this: After centuries of attempts to erase, diminish, and subvert that message of the One Who Came, it survives today.” The great irony is that the message of faith, hope, and love has largely been spread since the beginning, no matter what words have been said.


Perhaps the One Who Came requested silence because he knew that, in our speaking, our faith would be held captive by the vocabulary most readily available to us rather than set free through our transcendent behaviors — a smile, a glance, or a tear that speaks clearly to all humanity, even those at the very ends of the earth.


These days, my mouth is shut. My heart is open. My prayer is constant.


Perhaps my silence will tell no one, perhaps my silence will tell anyone who will listen — with their soul, the only part we were given by the One Who created us that is blind and deaf to anything less than eternal — perhaps my silence will give voice to the Good News.

13 comments:

Jim Elder said...

I enjoy reading The Long Pew. Thanks. Could you use larger font though. I'm not blind or have terrible eyesight yet I have to get real close to the screen to read what you two write. :)

robert benson and ben stroup said...

Jim,

Thanks for reading, as difficult as it might have been. :) Honestly, I'm not sure why this particular post is "behaving" differently. Let me see if I can adjust for a better size.

Please do stop by again.

Blessings, Ben.

Elaine said...

Our church preached about this very issue: how to share your faith, on Sunday. We concluded that the most important aspect of it all is relationship. You must share faith within a relationship, and you share it simply, the way you share any good thing in a relationship: without a prepared pitch, without an agenda (aside from the mutual joy of sharing a good thing), without judgment. You share about your faith the way you share about a good book, or about your marriage, or about a time saving tip: naturally and with love and respect.
I think those of us who want to fully share our lives with our non-church friends are afraid to share the faith aspect because we've been taught that there's a method - a right and wrong way to do it. And that's just not the case!

robert benson and ben stroup said...

Elaine,

Relational evangelism has been a tactic strategically taught by my side of the pew for some time now. In principle, I agree. You have to earn the right to speak about personal things with others. In practice, you form a relationship on false pretenses. And when you don't get want to want (i.e. the Sinner's prayer, agreement, etc.) the relationship wears thin and evaporates.

This tactic is actually a reactionary movement to the Evangelism Explosion generation where you were taught to to say: "sit down, shut up, and listen to what I have to say."

For me, the question resides in your motive or intent for building the relationship in the first place. If the intention from the beginning is to manipulate your way to an opportunity to convert someone, then I believe it's flawed. The entire "relationship" is built upon manipulation.

If, however, your intent is to reach out to someone and build a relationship with them because you want to know them as a person, a human being regardless of whether or not they think, act, behave, or "faith" like you do, then it may be a pure motive grounded in our innate desire to know and be known.

Relational Evangelism is, for the most part, a more current tactic for the same, tired strategy.

I think the answer lies in what Ghandi meant when he said, "If Christians were more like their Christ, the whole world would be Christian."

Somehow I think Ghandi meant so much more than what relational evangelism has to offer us in our effort to spread the Gospel through our prayers and practice.

Thank you for reading and stopping by. I hope I haven't said anything that might make you want to not come back. You are welcome anytime.

Blessings, Ben.

Anonymous said...

Just this morning at church a group of young people back form summer camp were interviewed about the experience. They had clearly enjoyed everything, and had lots to say, until asked, "What about the spiritual programme?". Silence...rapid prompting...embarrased laughter etc.

The sad thing is I know very well that all/most of those youngsters will actively remember steps on in their spiritual lives, through quiet words on a long walk, the care and compassion of a leader, the examples of others and the relationships built in an atmosphere of the Godly sharing of lives.

Those words, almost a cliche, attributed to St Francis still ring out..."Always preach the good news...when necessary, use words."

And let's not be ashamed of the silences that speak loudest!

Elaine said...

When I say relationship, I do mean a relationship without any agendas, overt or hidden. I did not mean to imply relational evangelism. Instead, I meant that we need to be focused on our relationships, and honest and authentic with people, and that will naturally include sharing about faiths, including divergent faiths. And the point of that sharing is not to gain a notch on the Bible, but to learn from each other.
It's very easy, I believe, for Christians to surround themselves with other Christians, and have no friends of other faiths. That is an area where we can be intentional in changing, but again, NOT for the purpose of converting, but for the purpose of learning and enriching each other's lives.

robert benson and ben stroup said...

I like what you said: "Let's not be ashamed of the silences the speak the loudest."

Thanks for stopping by and please do so as often as you'd like.

Blessings!

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robert benson and ben stroup said...

Elaine,

I'm so glad I didn't offend you. I was afraid that I might have been too strong in my response.

I do agree that we have much to learn from each other. We must be open to find the shadow of God in every person.

Blessings, Ben!

Elaine said...

Oh, no offense! It's hard to offend me. :) I took a world religions class that focused on looking for the action of the Holy Spirit in other religions, and so I love your statement about finding the shadow of God in every person.
I also think we've made evangelism into this "thing" and people are scared, offended, and upset by it. And really, I think that's where our biggest work lies: in helping people understand that evangelism isn't a thing or a program: it is a natural event that occurs in relationships. We evangelize about our favorite restaurants, movies, board games, and stores without a second thought. We evangelize about politics in some relationships. Freely discussing our faith is part of relationship, not a "thing" we must learn how to do.

robert benson and ben stroup said...

Elaine,

I agree. When the faith we profess is present within us, it becomes a part of us. Therefore, when we share ourselves with others in human relationship, we naturally share that which has been woven into the fabric and substance of our very beings.

Thank you for the wonderful conversation.

Blessings, Ben.

Christi Krug said...

Ben,

I appreciate the beautiful wrestling in your post. I think it is much harder to trust Silence and Prayer to do its work than to trust in our own actions. True Silence and Prayer transforms us on a deep level, moving us to love and accept others rather than try to change them.

We live in a culture where everyone wants to talk, and nobody wants to listen - both in and out of the pew. But listening and silence are indeed the Way of Christ.

--Christi

robert benson and ben stroup said...

Christi,

You said it best: "We live in a culture where everyone wants to talk, and nobody wants to listen."

Thanks for stopping by and taking a moment to share your thoughts. You're always welcome, so please stop by again.

Blessings, Ben.